Many cultures have customary kissing labels. The French for instance kiss twice when they greet someone. Once on each cheek. The Dutch kiss three times, and in sunny California they touch cheek to his cheek and say "mwouah. Even as children we learn the importance of a kiss. A kiss can awaken a sleeping beauty, or turn a frog into a handsome prince. Then there's the kiss of Romance. Can be passionate, inviting, or may mark the end.
There are a lot of pressure that the first kiss. Many think that a good kisser equals a good lover. Others feel a kiss should have chemistry. O sparks will fly or fade. But most people would all agree that the first kiss should be gentle, fairly quick and temporary. If you're wondering how best to address your first kiss just follow the guidance of the person you are kissing. Most people kiss the way they want to be kissed. Hard or soft, slow or fast, exploratory or ... well, you get the idea.
There is one other thing most people would agree. That is proper kissing preparation. As described in my book "The Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" you must prepare before any kiss is attempted. Follow these steps for a blissful first (or anytime) kiss.
- Always, always brush your teeth first. Use mouthwash to breath even fresher.
- If you're out, make chewing gum or mints with you to freshen your breath.
- If your lips are dry apply a little gloss.
- Ladies, if you wear heavy layered lipstick, take it down one layer to two.
- Boys few quick strokes with the razor will work wonders on that stubble.
- The guys with beards or mustaches you want to check the days left overs in the hair.
Once you've decided to take the plunge and kiss that beautiful creature beside you, remember that a kiss poorly executed can be the kiss of death. So be aware of these kissing no-nos.
- Never lung at your date.
- Never approach with a gaping mouth open.
- Do not stick out your tongue.
- Do not aim immediately for tonsils dates.
- Keep control of your saliva. The date should not need a towel when you're done.
But gently explore, and pace yourself. Slow and easy does it.
Do you know what the number one complaint of kissing is? Smoking! We regret that smoking is just the way it is. People who have kissed someone who just smoked describe it as tasting like an ashtray are cleaning with their language. Ugh! If you smoke, quit! ;-) No really, if you smoke, make sure you brush your teeth and use mouthwash. If you are out make sure you have gum, mints or even a small toothbrush and paste with you.
Good luck!
Marie Clare
Relations Consultant & Author
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