How to tell the truth without losing Listener

Truth often suffers more by the heat of its defenders, that the arguments of his opponents. - William Penn

Have you ever thought something vehemently, and began to convince someone else, and not completely? It seems that the more serious and determined we are, the more likely we are to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory, so to speak.

Penn says that when we are too emotionally invested in something, we have exactly the opposite effect of what we hope.

If you're like me, you can have in front of someone who has already convinced of their sentence and are ready to buy ', then was so turned off by their appearance or their attitude towards you, you go away.

Emotional Intelligence is about understanding and using emotion in yourself and others. Emotion gives us information in its raw form. We think the information and then if we respond to it at that time. We want to reach a logical conclusion, take the best decision and choose the wisest course of action.

When is the truth of delivery, when you want to convince someone of something, consider using a soft, calm tone of voice. Emotion motivates and convincing, but above where the intellectual material is concerned (facts, ration, logic), only in moderation. It is particularly effective when the general tone is that of respect for others, care for them, curiosity about their position and concerns, and this quiet confidence in yourself that you do not need to beat "a dead horse .

As usual, we can count on Shakespeare said it best: "The lady doth protest too much, I think," he wrote (Hamlet). Consciously or unconsciously we wonder - if this is a great idea, why is she trying so hard. Something must be wrong. We naturally resist such pressures.

The finger wagging and the harsh tone of m'arm school, or intimidating chest beating defeat your purpose, why stir up emotions that interfere with thinking. They can also make the person you dislike, just the tone of your voice.

wise counselors, coaches, speakers, teachers and parents lower their voices and slow down just before delivering important information. Avoid contact with eyes too intense as well.
When you need to correct a child, write a performance evaluation, or have a conversation with your husband, speak softly (and maybe you have a stick in the longer term).

Give it a try and let me know how it works for you.